Is ADHD real..?

I know, what a terrible thing to even suggest, but hang on, hear me out… I wanted to grab your attention.

Bare with me and don’t get me wrong, I absolutely believe there is actual ADHD in existence; due to mercury poisoning in the body and the effect it has on the human brain and ones behaviour, BUT, are all these people actually getting tested to find out if there’s actual mercury poisoning in their body? Or are they just being diagnosed because they are displaying ADHD behaviour, (and in this day and age, is it any wonder with too much time spent on mobiles, constant exposure to tech and stimulation) which let’s face it, a lot of people do when they are unhappy with their life, feeling lost, seeking to escape, needing permission to live their life how they want, avoiding making changes, wired/tired, overwhelmed, overstimulated, ungrounded, tech-fried, burnt out, victim to trauma or been triggered and bad habits etc.. This has definitely been me over the years, guilty of seeking distraction when I was in pain and not meeting my needs. I display many if not most ADHD tendencies when I am not my balanced self and out of alignment, which thankfully these days is rare, but can still happen if too much is going on.

So, the point of this blog is I am just urging people to take their time, get tested for mercury poisoning, look into herbal cleansers with research and talk to someone like a nutritionist and get it out or mostly out of your system, look at ways to reduce stimulation and overwhelm in your life, experiment with changes to see if it’s truly you (poisoning) or as a result of lifestyle, trauma or stress.

I know a successful guy who was able to pay privately to get tested, have a bunch of brain scans and be properly diagnosed over a period of time, he was fortunate to get treatment and went through an intense cleansing process which massively helped and reduced his ADHD tendencies, but he still has to manage his tendencies to slip into ADHD, because the damage had been done by the mercury when he was very young (if my memory serves me correctly). He is also, a highly-functioning individual, so this could be a factor, some people are running businesses or in jobs that require a lot of go-go-go, so creating moments of downtime is essential. It is for me.

Years ago I looked into ADHD and Autism because I just knew I wasn’t “normal”, I wasn’t able to live life as society expects, I would get overwhelmed, burn out, feel “too” sensitive and different, have trouble just doing life as it’s expected to live (by societies/cultural standard).
I was 70% on the ADHD and Autistic scale, but something still didn’t fit, why could I get so emotional, feel others feelings and have all this empathy…

All I am saying is that I am concerned that people are self-diagnosing or being wrongly diagnosed with ADHD too quickly and maybe even Autism… We need to have a look at our triggers, what wounds or trauma do we have that haven’t been healed, what bad patterns of behaviour are we still engaging with, what is not serving us, are we happy in our life, do we need to make some changes, are we truly actually meeting our own needs, are we being radically honest with ourselves about our life and needs, are we needing to change our lifestyle, look into our core values, spend time with healthier people, end relationships that aren’t really working for us, are we spending too much time on our phones, are we needing to reduce stimulation in our lives, are we spending enough time on our own to listen to what we really want from life, are we compromising our happiness to keep others happy, are we listening to our intuition and what’s in our heart, are we in alignment with our truth, are we really freely expressing ourselves?
Please ask yourselves these sorts of questions, why are you doing X in your life…? Is it moving you in the direction you want to go? Is doing X serving you?

So, I carried on searching and when I looked into being an HSP, that was my ah-ha moment, it just clicked, like a massive lightbulb moment (which of course ADHD or Autism etc. might do you for you, that soul recognition reaction is essential) and after that I went through another spiritual awakening. All of a sudden the puzzle pieces of my life started falling into place, creating a clear picture of me and my life, it suddenly all made sense.
I got so many flashbacks all the way back to being a kid and so many scenarios suddenly made total sense as to why they overwhelmed me, why life felt too much sometimes, why so many people said “stop taking it personally, stop being so sensitive, you are weird” or I just got misunderstood etc. This was right for me and I was in this HSP bubble for about 2 years where I really identified with it, but then I just started to identify with being me. Yes, I am an HSP and I have certain needs that need to be met, I know this now, but it’s not all I am. It’s great to know if you are HSP, Autistic, ADHD etc. Most people do seem neuro-diverse, well, everyone IS unique afterall and therefore feel and think differently to one another and this needs to become the norm. EVERYONE is different.
But, it’s not all of you, there is so much that’s makes you you, it’s just one aspect of you, to understand that you have certain needs, need to make certain changes and need to give yourself the permission to live life on your terms, the one that’s right for you. Convention only works for a certain number of the population, and that’s okay! The rest of us were designed to live life unconventionally.

When HSPs are out of balance and overwhelmed, we easily display as ADHD and we experience things like wired/tired, easily distracted, compassion fatigue etc, so can come across quite insensitive and abrupt, and chaotic which is the opposite to a healthy HSP. We all have two sides to us, we have the healthy side and the shadow side, I was in many of my shadow sides when I was in my decade of disconnect, where I wasn’t meeting my needs and people-pleasing, trying to live life conventionally.

What personality type are you? Are you a victim to the shadow side, because for me being ENFP, my shadow sides are definitely ADHD-like behaviours and they switch on and off, I have been able to see patterns over the last few years of when they are prominent and come out to play, it’s often a sign I am out of alignment, I am tired, wired, I have over done it, I have allowed myself to get overwhelmed or overstimulated. Not enough downtime or solo time. As soon as I ground and focus on one task at a time, have tech-free time, go into nature, close my eyes, anything to reduce the stimulation these ADHD symptoms dissipate… my nervous system calms down, I feel grounded, balanced again and my mind feels clearer.

My question is, are many people with wrongly diagnosed ADHD suffering from an overwhelmed nervous system that’s been overstimulated beyond what’s healthy, are they stimulating their mind too much, have they allowed themselves enough downtime to process the day, the situations, the information, the conversations etc? Have they practiced enough solo time to find stillness by being in nature or meditating, journaling etc. Just being and experiencing stillness is key in our life, because the world is a noisy and busy place.

So, I just want people to find their own agency, do the research, experiment with making changes in your life, talk to the right people like a coach, therapist etc., start to become aware of yourself when you are behaving in these ways, when you know you’re not really being your grounded aligned self. Are you acting from a place of intention or unconsciously?

As a coach and healer, I just want people to stop being quick to get a diagnosis and put themselves into a box, we are designed to heal, adapt and change, so please don’t sign your life away thinking you can never change or live a better life, because you can.
10-12 years ago I was a mess after multiple traumas and grief, I was in an healthy relationship, lost and disconnected with myself. I thought that was me forever, but I also had this deep, quiet knowing that something better was possible for me. Healing wasn’t easy and I know I did avoid it for a while, because I knew it was going to be a b*tch somedays, it hurt so much sometimes, I wanted it to stop, but I am so grateful I kept persisting in finding ways to heal myself, learn about myself, advocate for my needs, realise the changes I needed to make and be who I am today. Back then I felt suicidal regularly and was on antidepressants. When I think back to that version of me, I hardly recognise her, I can’t believe that was me, but it was.

Looking back, it took me a few years to regulate my nervous system again, I had a lot to recover from, I was easily triggered into survival modes. My nervous system had been put through endless amounts of trauma and chronic stress, not enough processing time and rest, some of which I have to take full responsibility for. It’s without question my responsibility to heal myself and meet my needs and regulate my system, so I can show up as my authentic self, ebbing and flowing in life. We have to take responsibility for our needs, this was hard for me being a people-pleaser and having very little self-esteem back then, but if I can come back from a lot of dark nights of the soul, so can you!

What if we could manually reduce or even eradicate our ADHD tendencies?

By reducing the time we spend with people (too much time with people sets my nervous system off), have tech-free hours/days and spend time just being, being out in nature, doing calming activities, doing things that brought us joy, creating any amount of stillness and peace in our lives. Connecting back to our true nature.

Please remember you are worth fighting for, you are needed in the world to show up as you, your needs and your voice matters.
Again, please ask yourselves these questions, internal enquiry is so important, only you know what you want and what’s right for you, journal or chat to someone you trust, why are you doing X in your life…? Is it moving you in the direction you want to go? What version of you do you want to be? What do you know in your heart? Listen to your soul, your intuition, it wants what is best for you, even if it’s a little uncomfortable temporarily. The other side is worth it. You are worth it.

Until next time…

Be Brave, Be Bold.

And look after yourself.

💖