Childfree, childless or just plain FREE to be!
I am feeling the need to have this conversation and get it out there, of how normal, and OK, it is to NOT have children. Because apparently this is shocking and offensive to quite a lot of people!
In 2022 I am, and many of my ‘childfree’ friends are getting a lot of judgement from other’s (mainly women, but the odd man) for not having children.
I had an interaction with a man at a campsite in the summer, who seemed utterly flabbergasted and couldn’t begin to comprehend why I was walking and camping in the Brecons on my own… Wow!!! I’ll leave out the details!
I had no idea that nearing my 40s this would offend so many, make so many uncomfortable and receive such judgment.
These people need to think that’s it’s not easy for us, that our life hasn’t turned out the way society tells us it should.
For some of us it’s a choice and for some of us, it just never happened for whatever reason. And it’s not through lack of trying either!
For me I have been ‘waiting’ for the right ingredients to come together and they never have.
Mainly for me a relationship that is founded on unconditional love from an emotionally intelligent, reliable, stable and supportive man - which I’m yet to meet - is some very key ingredients. Especially with the undertaking of another human life. It’s not exactly an ‘easy job’ being a parent. I’m not sure I fancy the single mum path, I don’t feel it’s for me like it is for some. Well done for those women doing it solo!!
So for now I continue on with my career, friendships, walking adventures and nature time with my Defender, self-development and obsession to live my best life through freedom of self.
I’m sorry that being childfree and man-free offends or triggers some people, but that’s their problem, their inner work to deal with, not mine! I have enough 😂
I always thought by now I’d have ticked boxed a lot more of the conventional stuff I’m ‘told’ to do through society, but for some reason that just doesn’t seem to work for me, despite trying very hard. Apparently I’m to embrace the solo life of freedom, independence and be the example of a new normal.
Spoiler alert!! There is no normal!!
That there is a different way to live life and be happy. Just be you, individual… ✨
xxx
